We Sure Had Us Fooled II
Here are a few lessons I picked up from the “growing up experience”. I hope they prove helpful to you.
# Growing up is a given, don’t rush it, you will get there.
As certain as the days go by and the seasons change, we age. There is no need to rush the process at all, we literally can’t. So chill, be a child and let nature take its course. Just be sure to learn your lessons along the way so that with your aging will come maturity.
#Enjoy the journey, it’s as important as the destination.
Quite frankly, we most often get caught up in the trap of waiting to achieve some dream or goal before feeling fulfilled. Not to put down the importance of setting a goal,but, what if you do not reach it? If you do, then what? There will always be yet another goal; another milestone; a more desirable future… if we keep postponing our happiness until the achievement of a dream, it will become a mirage- much like the picture above, something far off in the future but never attained. Slow down, enjoy the moment because it’s the subset of your destination.
# Don’t be lost in your dream, live the present as well.
I realise that after growing up I miss all the times in my childhood. They seem much more precious now and I wish I could go back with the perspective I have today and redo those moments. It’s impossible now of course. I got the few moments of ecstasy when I moved from one stage to another, but they wore off pretty quickly because there was something else to reach. I have learnt my lesson, I will work hard, laugh more, cry hard, play hard, love immensely and simple live in today so that when I look back a year from now, I can say, I lived it not I survived it.
# Your past is not the best, better days are ahead.
Well, despite all the ‘regrets’ of not taking full advantage of childhood days; despite all the sayings of adults that ‘you don’t know how good you have it’ to children, the best days are yet to come. The past is gone, irretrievable, and the present is here with so many opportunities, the future with unimaginable potential. So if your past was all of your best days, you are in such a sad state. Actively subscribe to forgetting about the past (learn from it, for we must, so we can grow) and live today pressing on towards the future- it’s bright. Where there is life, there is hope.
# Be sure of your dreams, make sure they are real not fantasies.
From the previous story, you would notice, all (the growing up experience) looked rosy from my point of view and I convinced myself it was so. Much like the saying, the grass is greener at the other side. Most of the time, we jump to conclusions and blindly throw ourselves into pursuing ‘dreams’ that are not even real. Take a moment today to be sure of your dreams. Ask around, get more information and strategically pursue a very ‘real dream’. Save yourself the needless hustle of chasing the wind.
# Take responsibility.
The usual thing I hear people say is ‘they sure had us fooled.’ Much like everyone else I used to think so until I critically thought about it. Nobody told me growing up was easy, my elder siblings didn’t mention it was a tea party. Nope! In fact, they categorically told me, “you have got it easy.” It just looked so easy and much better from my point view that i paid no attention to their words. So who had who fooled? I had me fooled. It is high time we quit the blame game and muster up courage to accept our own faults. Everything else is someone else’s fault? At what point do we take responsibility for our lives, thoughts and actions? I believe taking responsibility is a very significant step to repair and progress.
What are some of the lessons you picked up? kindly share them with me.
Until the next post, live in today and have great hopes for tomorrow!